You can't lose what you never had. 

Confess to the one you love. 

"je t'aime beaucoup" ; ) - Edmundstein 

 感情是分真与假，不是输与赢，更没有对与错。

 要放弃就会想到借口；

要挑战就会想到方法。

当遇到问题与责任的两种人

当遇到问题与责任，仅两种人：

    第一种： 想办法为自己洗罪，逃。常用字眼：不懂；不知道；不是我；是某某人（害的）。

    第二种：想办法弥补自己的过错，面对。

人啊！要尽情地去爱，去闯，去梦，才不枉此生。

 要一个男人动情不容易，

要一个死了心的男人回头就更难。 

- 《辣媽俏爸爸 - 第15卷》

 如果心中从未拿起， 又何须手中放下。

 To weep is to make less the depth of grief.  - Henry VI part III 

 

Convenience

There is a Yang, then always a Ying;

There is a matter, then always an antimatter;

There is Convenience, then always an inconvenience.

Explanation,

When one asks for a convenience for oneself, then there is a resultant inconvenience to other. 

Example;

Scenario: two cars are crossing a single lane bridge, and meet at the middle,

When you ask other car to let a way for your car to pass, then other car needs to take the inconvenience to back off. 

You may ask, why single lane bridge. Then I will tell you, if it is not a single lane bridge, you won't need or even think of having this convenience, which is selfish for the one to ask other to do the inconvenience. 

And one more thing, both party are not obligated to comply to each other's convenience. 

Only the selfish people will find way to bully the kind people in order to comply to his act of selfishness. 

Problem solver

 When you are solving a problem,  give at least two solutions, one for the problem itself, one for "the  solution to the first problem".  -Edmundstein

Explanation,

When you try to solve a problem, be ready to give at least two solutions, one solution is for the problem, second solution is for the resultant problem(s) arises from the former solution. Moral of the story, try not to create problem in the first place. Be preemptive and pro-active, thus minimize the side effect. 

 Only the fool claims to know anything and everything.  -ET-

If 1 is perfect, then what is 0?

If 100 is perfect, then what is 101?

I don't mind being the second to the First. 

Apparently, there is always rooms for improvement rather being blindly presume to be invincible. 

 Without second, there is no First.

=ET=

在现今社会，是要：

        进一步，海阔天空；

而不是：

        退一步，海阔天空；

觉：

    向前进，视野更广，勇者也；

    往后退，惰性日增，懦夫也。

-- Edmundstein

If I do a job in 30 minutes. It's because I spent 10 years learning how to do that in 30 minutes. 

You owe me for the years, not the minutes. 

-- men's Garage

 It is the human's physical brain, and not a metaphysical soul, that is solely responsible for every decision we make and every feeling we experience.

-- Dean Buonomano, Ph.D. 

-- extract Why Does the Most Complex Device in the Universe Epically Fail at Math?  online https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/brain-bugs/201207/why-does-the-most-complex-device-in-the-universe-epically-fail-math. accessed 2022-08-24 14:58.

 Long-term planning is a skill best accomplished by conscious awareness of how the disproportionate sway of short-term gratification affects our allegedly rational decisions.  

--  Dean Buonomano Ph.D. (Brain bugs)

 I am a perfectionist, but I am not perfect. -ET-

A perfectionist is not perfect. -ET-

A perfectionist always doubt of what he is doing, a perfect human being never doubts what is he doing, right or wrong. Because he is 100% sure he is right and no consequences. 

 Don't do simply do.   - E.T

- you don't do things irresponsibly, or simply meeting certain criteria ONLY, while IGNORING the potential consequences or aftermath. 

- if you have known that matter need careful and delicate planning, don't simply do it. NOT even try to fulfill. 

Love is our true destiny.

We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone,
     We find it with another.

- Thomas Merton

Dreams are hopeless aspirations in hopes of coming true.